Trailing Spouses
Trailing Spouse syndrome
Trailing Spouse Syndrome refers to the feelings of loss and mental health struggles experienced by the spouse of a person relocating for work. This term describes the challenges that a spouse faces when leaving behind their career, family, and friends to move for their partner’s job. The spouse may also have to adapt to a new culture, learn a new language, and may have to sacrifice their own career goals. Trailing Spouse Syndrome can lead to feelings of loneliness, resentment, and disconnection, which can result in trailing spouse depression or even divorce.
While the initial excitement of the move can keep people busy and upbeat, true relocation depression sets in after the moving process is complete and the “honeymoon” is over.
The syndrome is often not understood by the working spouse who is meeting new people at work, has a career and another access to connecting with others. Trailing spouse unhappiness can lead to the Expat couple or family leaving their host country early.
Spouse issues that can benefit from coaching
Career development: Being a trailing spouse can be a challenging experience, as it often involves following a partner to a new country and adjusting to a new environment without a support network or established career. They may face challenges in maintaining or developing their careers while living in a new country. A coach can help identify career goals, explore options for remote or freelance work, and develop strategies for building a professional network in the new location.
Cultural adaptation: Trailing spouses may struggle with adapting to a new culture, language, and way of life. A coach can provide guidance and support in navigating cultural differences, developing new skills, and finding ways to integrate into the local community.
Mental health: The stress of adjusting to a new culture, lack of social support, and uncertainty about the future can all take a toll on a trailing spouse's mental health. A coach can help individuals develop coping strategies, identify sources of stress, and find ways to prioritize self-care and well-being.
Relationship issues: Being a trailing spouse can put a strain on relationships, especially if one partner is the primary breadwinner and the other is struggling to find a sense of purpose and identity. A coach can help couples identify their needs and goals, improve communication, and develop strategies for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
Personal growth: Trailing spouses may have a unique opportunity for personal growth and development while living in a new country. A coach can help individuals identify their strengths, values, and interests, set goals for personal growth, and develop strategies for achieving those goals.
